3rd Quarter 2001
Volume 6, Issue 3

When a Family Member Dies

When a member of your family dies, you may feel that a part of you has died, too. Be gentle with yourself. Don't expect to feel better in a hurry. But don't deny yourself the right to ever laugh or feel good again.

Share your sorrow with parents and siblings who may also be grieving. And, if possible, remember the loved one on paper: in a poem or sketch or melody or work of art. Your relationship is safe now, and someday, in months or years, you'll be able to remember the good times with fondness instead of tears. You may also become stronger and more compassionate than you ever were before. You won't moan "This is the worst day of my life." You'll be able to distinguish little troubles from big ones. And you'll be able to comfort others in their moments of need. A person who dies can be alive and safe in my memory.

Written by Heather Cagle in loving memory of her son, P.J. Avent (6/12/97- 2/11/98)

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Our Baby Zane

by Audra White, mother of Zane Allen White

Zane touched our lives with sweetness and joy…
The Lord blessed us with our big beautiful boy

His blue eyes were dear and his heart full of love…
He sent him to us from the Heavens above

Our every day’s existence relied on his smiles…
We showed him off to friends and family,
traveling many miles

What could’ve been done differently had we known what would come…
Nothing would change much,
for we did what should be done

Zane’s three months on earth showed us His grace…
By not allowing this travesty to destroy,
faith guarantees we will meet face to face

He brought us closer to hope, love and
he gift giver, our Maker…
We know it was the work of the deceiver,
the liar and the taker

In our heart’s desire we truly know…
God will lead us to Zane when
He says we’re ready to go.

I Love you with all my heart, Zane!
Mommy

Zane Allen White

Special Delivery from Heaven

Author unknown

Sorry I had to leave right away.
I look down and smile at you every day
Grandpa says to tell you “hi”.
I love you; I’m happy so please don’t cry.
Mommy, I always want you to know,
Though the months were short and I had to go,
I will always cherish that precious time,
When I was yours and you were mine.

And Daddy, there was no time for Good-Byes,
But know there is joy and peace in my eyes.
As I live here with Jesus and Grandpa above
And know I will never forget your love.

Watch over each other,
Take care of me.
I’ll treasure you ALL,
Through eternity.
So please carry on as you did before,
Till all of us meet, on heaven’s bright shore.
Remember, I love you…remember I care…
I’ll always be with you, though you don’t see me there.

Love, Micaela
October 21, 2000

submitted by Deyro and Jennifer Hernandez in honor of their daughter, Micaela Nicole Hernandez

Micaela Nicole Hernandez


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